Be An Assertive Communicator

By Zoe Smith


It is impossible to live in this world and not be in contact with another person. As such, it is of vital importance that we develop good communication skills to be able to express ourselves clearly and in doing so, establish better relationships with the people around us. What is assertive communication and how can we use this to our best advantage?

There are a few styles of communication that people knowingly or unknowingly use. Passive and Aggressive communication styles are born out of low self esteem. Passive communicators avoid self expression at any cost; and aggressive ones go overboard in defending their rights and opinions by being almost abusive. Some individuals belong to the passive-aggressive category, which is by subtly undercutting people because they themselves feel powerless, jealous and angry.

Obviously, these are not the most ideal communication styles we can use. It may be that you find yourself being of low self-esteem and it reflects to how you communicate to other people. If this is you, do not feel bad about it. Use this information as a tool in helping you develop yourself to be the best that you can be and in doing so, experience a richer and happier life.

If these aren't the ideal forms of communication, then what is the best way? The most ideal communicators are assertive communicators. What are some of their qualities? They are individuals who have a healthy self image and self esteem. Therefore they can advocate their rights while being respectful of others. They are direct and open.

Being an assertive communicator will positively impact your professional life. Decision making techniques necessitate that one be self-possessed, honest and straightforward for maximum efficacy. Passive personalities will not command respect, and aggressive decision makers are likely to be overbearing and offensive to other people. Assertive decision makers solicit confidence and inspire his/her team to work towards the fulfillment of the goal.

More importantly, understanding and utilizing assertive communication will improve your personal relationships as well. Nobody wants to hurt people they love and so most of us will shy away from correcting them, or do it the wrong way and turn them away. A good communicator will be able to correct lovingly, respectfully and effectively.

So how can we improve in this particular quality? The first thing you need to do is to have a deeper understanding and appreciation of yourself. If you have a healthy self-image or self esteem, you will not shy away from asserting your rights; nor will you feel the need to strongly defend yourself because you feel vulnerable and attacked. Place a high and healthy value on your own person by taking time to develop yourself spiritually, emotionally, mentally and physically.

Of course even if we do our best in expressing our best intentions for people-sometimes they will misunderstand. Don't be surprised-miscommunication cannot be avoided. When it does happen, don't let it affect you too much. Live the way you know to do and be happy with yourself no matter what. Enjoy a great life and have no regrets!




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