Bruce Lee, the legendary martial artist, once said, "Emotion can be the enemy. If you give in to your emotion, you lose yourself. You must be at one with your emotions because the body always follows the mind."
One could easily argue that emotions are the most powerful force governing our behavior. In most cases, emotions are the protectors of your well-being. They are your allies and their primary function is to ensure your survival.
Do you remember the old adage, "With friends like these, who needs enemies?" That couldn't ring more true than when it comes to emotions.
I'm sure you already know that, when left untamed, your basic emotions (anger, joy, disgust, surprise, distress, and fear) would cause you to fight first and ask questions later. Or run first and ask questions later. This is phenomenon known as the Flight or Fight Response.
Flight or Fight Response applies to more than physical situations. Emotions gone wild will have you shouting, crying, or making incorrect assumptions. All of this is done in the name of survival.
In the heat of the moment your body initially responds to a psychological attack (i.e. insults) in the same manner it would a physical threat. Think about that.
Although they are supposed to be your friends, emotions can leave you in a world of trouble. The reason this happens is simple.
Human beings are not biologically designed for diplomacy. We are designed for survival.
For countless generations, the emotional brain, also known as the limbic system, has been doing what it does best: keeping us out of harms way. Then along comes the neocortex, the logical brain, to make things much complex.
Today, people know that if they don't want to deal with the consequences of physically attacking another person, an insult will often do the trick. Although it's not a physical attack, the other person's emotional brain still recognizes the bad intentions and Flight or Fight Response kicks in.
If you aren't careful, in 3-5 seconds for the chemicals that produce emotions flood your system creating what is often referred to as an emotional hijacking. Your emotions could become your enemies.
In a life and death situation that calls for immediate action and there is little time for thinking, an emotional hijacking might save your life.
At work, however, an emotional hijacking might cost you your job. It might cost you a deal, kill a negotiation, or ruin a relationship.
Therefore the timeless advice about counting to ten before your respond is verified, not only by common sense, but also science. Counting to ten gives you a chance to use your logical brain.
So, if you ever feel a wave of emotions flooding your system, pause and do your best access your neocortex. Leading expert on developing Emotional Intelligence--Joshua Freeman, calls it the "six second pause."
For most people, it's better to take the four additional seconds just to be sure. Impulsive behavior is nothing to play with. It can be costly.
When I was growing up my mom used to always say to me, "Al, don't let your friends get you in trouble."
Mom, you never told me that you were talking about my emotions.
One could easily argue that emotions are the most powerful force governing our behavior. In most cases, emotions are the protectors of your well-being. They are your allies and their primary function is to ensure your survival.
Do you remember the old adage, "With friends like these, who needs enemies?" That couldn't ring more true than when it comes to emotions.
I'm sure you already know that, when left untamed, your basic emotions (anger, joy, disgust, surprise, distress, and fear) would cause you to fight first and ask questions later. Or run first and ask questions later. This is phenomenon known as the Flight or Fight Response.
Flight or Fight Response applies to more than physical situations. Emotions gone wild will have you shouting, crying, or making incorrect assumptions. All of this is done in the name of survival.
In the heat of the moment your body initially responds to a psychological attack (i.e. insults) in the same manner it would a physical threat. Think about that.
Although they are supposed to be your friends, emotions can leave you in a world of trouble. The reason this happens is simple.
Human beings are not biologically designed for diplomacy. We are designed for survival.
For countless generations, the emotional brain, also known as the limbic system, has been doing what it does best: keeping us out of harms way. Then along comes the neocortex, the logical brain, to make things much complex.
Today, people know that if they don't want to deal with the consequences of physically attacking another person, an insult will often do the trick. Although it's not a physical attack, the other person's emotional brain still recognizes the bad intentions and Flight or Fight Response kicks in.
If you aren't careful, in 3-5 seconds for the chemicals that produce emotions flood your system creating what is often referred to as an emotional hijacking. Your emotions could become your enemies.
In a life and death situation that calls for immediate action and there is little time for thinking, an emotional hijacking might save your life.
At work, however, an emotional hijacking might cost you your job. It might cost you a deal, kill a negotiation, or ruin a relationship.
Therefore the timeless advice about counting to ten before your respond is verified, not only by common sense, but also science. Counting to ten gives you a chance to use your logical brain.
So, if you ever feel a wave of emotions flooding your system, pause and do your best access your neocortex. Leading expert on developing Emotional Intelligence--Joshua Freeman, calls it the "six second pause."
For most people, it's better to take the four additional seconds just to be sure. Impulsive behavior is nothing to play with. It can be costly.
When I was growing up my mom used to always say to me, "Al, don't let your friends get you in trouble."
Mom, you never told me that you were talking about my emotions.
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