Steps To Take To End Codependency In Your Relationships

By Ruthie Calderon


Your entire life has been inter-reliant. Your narcissistic and alcoholic parents have influenced this lifestyle. You have consequently engaged in numerous narcissistic relationships. You identify yourself with what you are to others and what you give them. This means your life is a codependency. In order for your personality to escape this rut, you have to take a number of steps. They will enable you look deep into yourself and reveal your authentic, beautiful and true self.

The first step would be creating a relationship with oneself. In the (Runaway Bride), the character Julia Roberts plays finally makes a decision. She would henceforth choose the eggs she liked rather than those her former partners preferred. A guy should take time to focus on their dislikes, likes and preferences. They should learn more about those things that make them happy or unhappy. They need to find healthy ways to cope and deal with those things that make them unhappy.

A crucial step is the establishment of personal boundaries. This is important because it helps one cease people pleasing. Basic forms of personal boundaries include where to draw that red line and when to say no. A good example is blatantly declining to let an individual to convince one to do something they do not want to do. This is even if such an individual manipulates one with negative comments. Enforcements of boundaries this way shall improve relationships.

Trusting and listening to our own feelings and intuition is strategic. We need to observe what are our exact thoughts and feelings. We need to remind ourselves that it is allowable to make our own judgements and form our own opinions.

You need to honor your intentions and needs. Co-dependent personalities tend to make their decisions based on other peoples needs rather than for their own betterment. This means you will never fearlessly utter any word. In this regard, you need to understand your motives and ideas rather than allow someone else define these for you. It certainly helps in developing your self-respect and confidence, which means it becomes easier for you to communicate your needs to everybody.

Creating a positive space is an important step. This is through realizing the difference between owning other peoples problems and giving such people support. This realization is the beginning of the creation of ones own positive space. It helps identify boundaries where other peoples end and others begin.

Finally, you have to make a commitment to uplift your own self-confidence and esteem. Existing your co-dependent status will take time and steadfastness. The more you know who you are and what you want, the less people will upset you. A year may be spent making mistakes. Another discovering them and learning from them. A third involves practicing loving yourself. The fourth may involve accepting, awareness and solidification of your inner loving kindness.

In the end, people are responsible for their own happiness. What is created in themselves can later be skilfully imparted to others. In this vibrant and dynamic world, self-love makes us all stronger.




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