In this article I'm going to talk to you about how to quit porn.Some men don't ever watch porn.Most men have a relatively healthy relationship with porn, watching it every now and then but certainly not becoming obsessed with it and always preferring the 'real thing'.THE REAL THING being -- sex with a woman.However, there are some men (and since you're reading, this is probably you) who become a little too fond of porn and end up watching it every day, often more than once.[]
Why is pornography so addictive? The reason why pornography is so terribly addictive is because it acts exactly like a physical drug by releasing powerful natural chemicals in the brain; which chemicals act exactly like illicit drugs making the person feel extremely "good". This feeling of pleasure is extremely addictive and therefore very enticing, making it very difficult for the sufferer to quit porn addiction.What types of individuals are addicted to porn? There is not any specific type of individuals that can be said to be more prone to sexual addiction than others. Although the vast majority is male there are also women addicted to pornography and other sexual behaviors. However, according to some studies it has been found that porn addicted people are rather bright, sensitive and even spiritual. In many of the cases the addiction has started because of a specific negative experience in childhood, teenage years or young adulthood.
Spend 5 Minutes Each Day Thinking About What Will Happen If You Don't.By doing this, you'll start to associate NEGATIVE outcomes and PAIN to the idea of continuing to watch a lot of porn.The negative outcome/pain association is the most important part of breaking a bad habit, in this case, the bad habit being -- watching too much porn.Decide What You Really Want.You better get clear about his, otherwise you'll never succeed.Do you want to quit watching porn forever?Or do you just want to stop watching as much porn as you do right now? Only you can decide, but decide you must.Stop Watching It!
For people wanting to quit porn addiction, they probably already tried but didn't succeed and here's why; most think they can simply do it by avoidance and willpower. Unfortunately it takes a lot more than that to quit porn addiction. It is something that needs to be treated to quit just like other addictions such as cigarettes, drinking problems etc.There is a lot of ways a person can find treatment to quit porn addiction. The best way of doing it however is by getting a good guide online. The reason for this is because most local services tend to be from religious centers which may not be the most preferred methods for many. Also, you cannot do it without showing your identity which is the major drawback for many.
Most people think when trying to quit porn that resisting will get you through. The reality is that you'll never make it really far by resisting against your urges and its only a matter of time before you'll crack and relapse. Even if you manage to resist for a decent amount of time, you must understand there are days that are much tougher than others and we will all eventually go through those days. That being said, you should look for a replacement instead.Confront And Replace.Another tip on how to quit pornography is to confront your urges and replace it. Instead of trying to avoid and resist, you need to acknowledge the fact that it's there and you need to treat it. The fact that you get a sudden urge is because your brain is in need of something to make you feel better. This is mostly due to triggers (which we will cover this later). Instead of resisting, find something to do that can replace your porn addiction.
Identify Your Triggers.There are triggers involved every time you feel the urge to watch porn. Something such as being bored, feeling lonely or seeing a hot person is a trigger that can give you the urge to watch porn. You need to identify them and plan accordingly.Plan Accordingly.Planning is another key element on how to quit pornography. You can have all the knowledge, tools and support but if you don't plan accordingly, you'll fail each and every time. You need to make plans and set goals. Things such as what you do when you'll be confronted with a trigger, daily sessions of self-improvement etc.
Most people that try to stop pornography addiction always go through the same phases and if you tried to stop in the past but failed, here's why. The most common cycle most people go through when trying to quit is first, by completely stopping and never go back, just like smoking. They will try to resist the temptations and avoid pornography as much as they can. As the time passes by, they start to feel the overwhelming temptation to watch porn and it comes to a point where they can no longer do anything without thinking about it. Finally, they simply give up and once they've committed the act, they feel ashamed and regret doing so but say to themselves that they'll do better next time. If you see yourself doing this, you need help.
In years gone by, things weren't as easy. You'd have to sneak out to the news stand and buy a top shelf magazine. Now, chances are whatever your tastes, it's available for free at the click of a mouse.OK, the first trigger is probably something you're unlikely to be able to quit whilst you're still breathing - we naturally think about sex a lot. At least partly to keep our species going.But there are probably other triggers that cause you to switch to a new tab on your browser - or even a different browser that you just use for porn, so that others don't see your guilty browsing secrets - and have a "quick look". Which turns into a not so quick look and before you know it, way too much time has passed.
The reason for this is very simple, your addiction comes from a deep mental imbalanced that may have been created when you were just a child, and unless you succeed in dismantling the issue from its very source, your brain, it will be there to stay. Yes, willpower will help for a while maybe, but your will fall back into your addictive habits sooner or later.Then, if willpower alone can't help you how can you leave porn addiction for good?There are several things that you will need to learn or relearn about yourself and about your relationships with others. Here are few things that you will need to do to be able to leave porn addiction behind.Discover your true self.Learn how to love yourself.Learn how to connect with others in a more meaningful way.Learn how to develop real relationships and true intimacy
It is essential that you learn who you truly are and love yourself from the inside. You might be surprise by such statement and think that you do, but you need to know that the fact that you are addicted to porn is proof enough that you have a self-esteem issue that needs to be re-established or even established in your mind for the first time.If your suffer from sexual addiction, you most likely have a problem to connect in a healthy and meaningful way with others, and learning how to do so is a great step towards leaving porn addiction behind. From there, you will finally be able to learn what true relationships and true intimacy is all about. However, all those important steps must be learned and followed in order to work.It is like a rehabilitation of the brain which controls all those behaviors, the good ones as well as the bad ones. With the right help you can rehabilitate your brain, and leave porn addiction behind once and for all. You can win this fight; it's not impossible. Others have succeeded and quite devastating sexual behaviors, but remember, your willpower alone might not be able to do the job on its own. A change in your brain connections will.
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Why is pornography so addictive? The reason why pornography is so terribly addictive is because it acts exactly like a physical drug by releasing powerful natural chemicals in the brain; which chemicals act exactly like illicit drugs making the person feel extremely "good". This feeling of pleasure is extremely addictive and therefore very enticing, making it very difficult for the sufferer to quit porn addiction.What types of individuals are addicted to porn? There is not any specific type of individuals that can be said to be more prone to sexual addiction than others. Although the vast majority is male there are also women addicted to pornography and other sexual behaviors. However, according to some studies it has been found that porn addicted people are rather bright, sensitive and even spiritual. In many of the cases the addiction has started because of a specific negative experience in childhood, teenage years or young adulthood.
Spend 5 Minutes Each Day Thinking About What Will Happen If You Don't.By doing this, you'll start to associate NEGATIVE outcomes and PAIN to the idea of continuing to watch a lot of porn.The negative outcome/pain association is the most important part of breaking a bad habit, in this case, the bad habit being -- watching too much porn.Decide What You Really Want.You better get clear about his, otherwise you'll never succeed.Do you want to quit watching porn forever?Or do you just want to stop watching as much porn as you do right now? Only you can decide, but decide you must.Stop Watching It!
For people wanting to quit porn addiction, they probably already tried but didn't succeed and here's why; most think they can simply do it by avoidance and willpower. Unfortunately it takes a lot more than that to quit porn addiction. It is something that needs to be treated to quit just like other addictions such as cigarettes, drinking problems etc.There is a lot of ways a person can find treatment to quit porn addiction. The best way of doing it however is by getting a good guide online. The reason for this is because most local services tend to be from religious centers which may not be the most preferred methods for many. Also, you cannot do it without showing your identity which is the major drawback for many.
Most people think when trying to quit porn that resisting will get you through. The reality is that you'll never make it really far by resisting against your urges and its only a matter of time before you'll crack and relapse. Even if you manage to resist for a decent amount of time, you must understand there are days that are much tougher than others and we will all eventually go through those days. That being said, you should look for a replacement instead.Confront And Replace.Another tip on how to quit pornography is to confront your urges and replace it. Instead of trying to avoid and resist, you need to acknowledge the fact that it's there and you need to treat it. The fact that you get a sudden urge is because your brain is in need of something to make you feel better. This is mostly due to triggers (which we will cover this later). Instead of resisting, find something to do that can replace your porn addiction.
Identify Your Triggers.There are triggers involved every time you feel the urge to watch porn. Something such as being bored, feeling lonely or seeing a hot person is a trigger that can give you the urge to watch porn. You need to identify them and plan accordingly.Plan Accordingly.Planning is another key element on how to quit pornography. You can have all the knowledge, tools and support but if you don't plan accordingly, you'll fail each and every time. You need to make plans and set goals. Things such as what you do when you'll be confronted with a trigger, daily sessions of self-improvement etc.
Most people that try to stop pornography addiction always go through the same phases and if you tried to stop in the past but failed, here's why. The most common cycle most people go through when trying to quit is first, by completely stopping and never go back, just like smoking. They will try to resist the temptations and avoid pornography as much as they can. As the time passes by, they start to feel the overwhelming temptation to watch porn and it comes to a point where they can no longer do anything without thinking about it. Finally, they simply give up and once they've committed the act, they feel ashamed and regret doing so but say to themselves that they'll do better next time. If you see yourself doing this, you need help.
In years gone by, things weren't as easy. You'd have to sneak out to the news stand and buy a top shelf magazine. Now, chances are whatever your tastes, it's available for free at the click of a mouse.OK, the first trigger is probably something you're unlikely to be able to quit whilst you're still breathing - we naturally think about sex a lot. At least partly to keep our species going.But there are probably other triggers that cause you to switch to a new tab on your browser - or even a different browser that you just use for porn, so that others don't see your guilty browsing secrets - and have a "quick look". Which turns into a not so quick look and before you know it, way too much time has passed.
The reason for this is very simple, your addiction comes from a deep mental imbalanced that may have been created when you were just a child, and unless you succeed in dismantling the issue from its very source, your brain, it will be there to stay. Yes, willpower will help for a while maybe, but your will fall back into your addictive habits sooner or later.Then, if willpower alone can't help you how can you leave porn addiction for good?There are several things that you will need to learn or relearn about yourself and about your relationships with others. Here are few things that you will need to do to be able to leave porn addiction behind.Discover your true self.Learn how to love yourself.Learn how to connect with others in a more meaningful way.Learn how to develop real relationships and true intimacy
It is essential that you learn who you truly are and love yourself from the inside. You might be surprise by such statement and think that you do, but you need to know that the fact that you are addicted to porn is proof enough that you have a self-esteem issue that needs to be re-established or even established in your mind for the first time.If your suffer from sexual addiction, you most likely have a problem to connect in a healthy and meaningful way with others, and learning how to do so is a great step towards leaving porn addiction behind. From there, you will finally be able to learn what true relationships and true intimacy is all about. However, all those important steps must be learned and followed in order to work.It is like a rehabilitation of the brain which controls all those behaviors, the good ones as well as the bad ones. With the right help you can rehabilitate your brain, and leave porn addiction behind once and for all. You can win this fight; it's not impossible. Others have succeeded and quite devastating sexual behaviors, but remember, your willpower alone might not be able to do the job on its own. A change in your brain connections will.
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